Last summer, my best friend and I hit the shores of Jersey for a week at the beach, minus the sun, the beach, and the boys (yes, I know, the best parts) I actually learned a lot about myself.

My best friend happened to be extremely close with a fortune teller—whom she promised me was 100% accurate. So yeah, she told me the initial of my ex who decided to randomly re-enter my life , told me what was on my mind, let me know why me and my old boyfriend wouldn’t last, and completed her reading by telling me that I would find my soul mate, get married, and have kids.

But how could she not see that I am the heartless romantic.

Heartless Romantic (n.) A person who believes that love and happy endings exist in every corner of the world, just not for

themselves.

So there it was, my life all on the palm of my hands. I guess all I have to do is wait till I see if it all comes true. [Pause]. We hear every day in life about true love, fairytale endings, and soulmates, but what does it all really mean?

So there it was & here it is: Love, lust, lies, trust, sad beginnings and happy endings all in one blog.

Maybe, one day: ♥

Saturday, December 18, 2010

The Nice Guy Syndrome

We are all told that actions speak louder than words, but is that truly always the case?


Picture this: two people are in a relationship because they love each other and because they want to be together, from the outside we see the action of them spending time together and loving one another. But when we ask the girl why she is with her loved one, her response is… “Because he is a nice guy.” So what speaks louder the action of their relationship or the words behind the reason they are together?


Several times in my life I have found myself caught up into what I call the nice guy syndrome, instead of actually having legitimate reasons for being in a relationship, my rationalization turns into the fact that he is a nice guy. So when it comes to relationships remember that in a healthy relationship, you should always be able to voice why you are in that relationship. It seems simple and may just seem like a few words, but being able to state what makes your relationship unstoppable proves that there is a reason you two are together. Once the relationship does reach nice guy status then maybe that’s not really where you want to be, and you are just using his kindness as a reason to stay with him.


Functional relationships have a purpose, not just justifications.



Maybe, one day: ♥
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