Last summer, my best friend and I hit the shores of Jersey for a week at the beach, minus the sun, the beach, and the boys (yes, I know, the best parts) I actually learned a lot about myself.

My best friend happened to be extremely close with a fortune teller—whom she promised me was 100% accurate. So yeah, she told me the initial of my ex who decided to randomly re-enter my life , told me what was on my mind, let me know why me and my old boyfriend wouldn’t last, and completed her reading by telling me that I would find my soul mate, get married, and have kids.

But how could she not see that I am the heartless romantic.

Heartless Romantic (n.) A person who believes that love and happy endings exist in every corner of the world, just not for

themselves.

So there it was, my life all on the palm of my hands. I guess all I have to do is wait till I see if it all comes true. [Pause]. We hear every day in life about true love, fairytale endings, and soulmates, but what does it all really mean?

So there it was & here it is: Love, lust, lies, trust, sad beginnings and happy endings all in one blog.

Maybe, one day: ♥

Thursday, December 30, 2010

The Damsel in Distress

"Aren't you... a damsel in distress?" -Hercules

"I'm a damsel, I'm in distress, I can handle this. Have a nice day." -Meg


We often get caught up. Not in just a moment, but in the life we live. We forget that we are bigger than minor incidents or even major occurences, and we let an experience consume us. Instead of working through the situation, we let someone else step in and become our hero. Sadly, they become a hero for more than a moment, and we end up relying on them for everything. In essence, we become a damsel in distress.


Damsel in Distress (n.) the beautiful female depicted in classic and modern literature that finds themself in a situation (trapped by a monster, villian, or lifestyle) and is rescued by a hero.



Literature and females in Disney movies have allowed us to think that being saved from a situation creates a bond that leads to a "movie perfect" love. And that is how it appears. Through the escape of the most physiscal and emotionally draining situations an unmatched sense of love is created that makes a pair seem unbreakable. This all makes sense from the inside, but from the outside looking in the story changes.


A damsel in distress is created internally by a trying situation, such as death, family or social problems, or anything that affects our outward behavior. During these times we normally reach out--whether it be a family member, a friend, or even a guy. When we reach out to a guy that has not already been in our life, they provide a new, rewarding solution to a problem we have no answers for. This is when the damsel is created, if a girl cannot differentiate between someone who was convieniently there for her or someone who she would still like during another time then a false sense of security is created and the girl falls in love with the hero who saved her from a moment.


THIS is not always a problem, sometimes the guy who should've been there all along was finally there just in time to wipe that first tear drop. Other times the girl gets caught up in what she thinks she needs because the recent events have clouded her judgement so much.


So before rushing into love because a guy is always there for you or because he just swept in during the perfect moment, remember what is going on with your life at that moment. If something major just happened, maybe what you think is attraction is just a good shoulder to cry on at the perfect time.



Maybe, one day: ♥
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