Ladies, ladies, ladies, after a rather LONG weekend I woke up this morning and realized the best friends we have in the world have been with us since the very beginning: our moms. Whether you are close to them or not, we all have one and if not hopefully you have a mother-like figure in your life. They are the only people in the world who carried us for nine months without even knowing our name. That’s love, and that’s strength. Which brings me to something we here all the time…mother knows best. Believe it if you want, or take it for granted, but females are complicated, yet simple. Because everything that happened to you it probably happened to her or one of her close friends. So instead of forgetting about our mothers, here is a tribute to every mom and the best advice my mom gave me in my life.
1. Mother knows best. Whether you accept it or not women have an intuition and attention to detail that men will never evolve to have. We are nurturers and lovers so as a female it is in our DNA to nurture and love, whether that be a woman’s child, significant other, or friend. We have a connection to things that just strengthens with time, so your mom and my mom know something. You don’t have to listen to every word, but every now and then remember where you came from.
2. Don’t let anyone steal your joy. Pardon my French, but shit happens and half the time we aren’t the reason it happens. Instead of being affected by every little thing, let things go and don’t let anyone take that bright smile off your face or joy from your soul. A little incident is nothing compared to the world, so don’t let the little things take over. Learn from mistakes and take something from experiences, but don’t let them take anything from you. Things in life are made with two purposes: to take you down or to build you up. So pick the latter purpose and start strong and be stronger so nothing will defeat you. Not even love.
3. There are other fish in the sea. You think you love him, or really like him and he is the perfect guy for you. But unless you literally can’t breathe without him, remember there are other guys out there. I’m not saying doubt your intuition or that your relationship is over, but until you are the last person on Earth, there is always someone else for you to love that will love you back.
4. You are beautiful. There are songs reminding you, when you were little I’m sure you mom reminded you, and even a nice guy might have said it a time or two. But it’s very, very important to never forget the beauty you have inside and out because once you accept that you are beautiful you, you can accept someone else telling you too. Appreciation and respect for yourself will keep you beautiful even at times where you feel your worst.
5. Don’t settle. So what the guy is great except for the fact that he is disrespectful, or whatever other excuse you are telling yourself that make your guys shortcomings ok. They say you have to learn your lover’s flaws because no one is perfect, which is true. But there is a big difference between loving flaws and just dealing with problems. I guess the hard part is differentiating settling from everything else, but love is about what’s best for you, so if it’s not the best for you then you may be settling. Love and be happy.
I love my mom, not just for being there or loving me or being there when no one else could, but just for being my mom. This made me a little teary-eyed because it reminded me of every moment where she was the epitome of a perfect mom. And we take them for granted, say they annoy us, and get irritated all the time—but they really are here for us. If you don’t believe me, I bet she smiles whenever someone asks her about how wonderful her child is.
Maybe, one day: ♥
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