I deal with love issues as they come to me, as they toy with my life or as they interrupt my friends. If I said that my mind is empty of love that would suggest that none of my friends or myself have had any love problems, and that would be a lie. One of my best friends would be the perfect description of Albert Brenneman if I was Alex Hitchens…when it comes to love advice I’m the one with all the answers. The other day she hit me up with a sometimes difficult realization—she was lonely. But she was the exact opposite of that, she had had guys all over her; they just weren’t her ideal guy. So she listed the guys she had dying for her affection and between the guys I know, the guys she knows, and the guys we all know it seems like every guy we don’t want has at least one good attribute about them. So maybe as females we are being a little to judgmental about the guys that approach us, so this is the preliminary stages of “The List,” which is a list of every guy that exists: the good, the bad, and the ugly.
He’s like a brother to me Guy: Now I can guarantee that we ALL have one of these. No, he isn’t the cutest guy in the crowd, or the smartest, he doesn’t have the most swag or charm. Honestly, he doesn’t have the most or best of anything, but he is always there for us. He is the guy we text when we’re bored, the one we call when we’re sad, the one with the best conversation, and the most insightful advice for the most needed times. So he has all the emotional parts of our lives covered (and for a female that is pretty important), but when it comes to actually dating him he falls short. So what’s my opinion? Your being too judgmental. Sure you don’t want to ruin your friendship, or you don’t see him like that but maybe it’s time that YOU adjust your eyes because he sees you for everything you are, so maybe it’s time we give him a chance.
Mr. Sexy & Full of Swag Guy: When everyone sees this guy they stop and stare and admire his looks, his swag, and his confidence, did you hear me say everyone? Ladies it is about time we move away from this guy, and not the you tell yourself to move on but your still intrigued, I mean completely move on. Not that a guy like this won’t one day make a great whatever, but right now he isn’t ready for you and you definitely aren’t ready for him. Besides looks and flirty texts he probably doesn’t have much to offer, even if the conversation is good every now and then it is nothing that will get you past the worst in any relationship. So keep him as a friend, a flirty text buddy, and anything but your one and only.
Study Buddy Guy: Now the looks of this guy can vary, he could be kind of cute, extremely cute, completely nerdy, or exactly what you want when you look at him the right way. The problem with this guy is that we are probably so into that one math problem or balancing that chemistry equation that you don’t actually get to take a look at the chemistry you all are making together in the room. With this guy, when you get off topic from school work the conversations are good, you guys actually do work when your together, and you guys have a little fun together too. So what’s my opinion? Keep studying & reach for the stars, if something happens it does, and if not you have a good study buddy. Just don’t forget that he’s out there.
He wants me, and I’m not interested Guy: I’m pretty sure we ALL have one of these. Somehow he ended up with your number, somehow he’s always texting you and asking for more attention than you’re willing to give, and SOMEHOW he thinks you guys have a chance. Well, keep being friendly and every now and then remind him that you guys won’t be anything more than friends…EVER!
The Athletic Guy: So he plays for the basketball team or the football team and he looks good. Period. Point blank. But unless these guys are older, meaning NO youngbulls, just stay friends because he isn’t ready to be tied down. Not yet anyway. Let your friendship strengthen and learn a little about his sport and what he does, but nothing more.
Everyone Thinks We’re Dating Guy: This is always fun, whether you guys are actually dating and keeping it on the low or whether you guys are just close friends that get along almost too well just embrace everyone’s attention. Don’t let anything anyone says get to you, because you and your “guy” are the only ones who need to know the truth. It’s ok to play up or play down your relationship, just because people are nosy and they want to see a show. Let the world be your stage, and give your audience a great show =).
The Clingy Guy: This is another guy I am sure we all have had at one time. He starts off great, giving you just the right amount of attention to have you crave a little more, he asks all the right questions, and fits your list of looks, goals, and attitude great. Until, a few weeks into the getting to know you phase and he is claiming you, getting angry about not returning phone calls or texts, and acting worst than a husband with a small dick. Everything you do seem to be a problem, yet it makes him want you more and more. He calls and texts too much, and craves attention from you and only you. Everything about this guy is a problem, and the biggest problem is getting rid of him. You have to let guys like this off the hook gently, because they tend to be sensitive and easily victimized. There are signs for guys like this early on; the catch is noticing the signs before they realize how much they want you.
Guys are funny, yet they always say girls are the ones with the problems. Like I said, this was just a preliminary list, because there are SO many more types of guys out there. Keep your eyes open and realize that the guy you have your eye on may not be the guy for you for a lot more reasons than one.
Maybe, one day: ♥
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